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Emotional healing after a relationship breakdown. The 12 Process.

April 13, 2024

Experiencing a relationship breakdown can be emotionally challenging, and it may take time to heal and recover. Relationship breakdown is not a time for blame but a time for reflection. Here are some suggestions for emotional healing after a relationship breakdown: 

1. Assess and create awareness: Determine the root cause of your need for healing. Is it physical, mental, emotional, or a combination of these? Most importantly, what went wrong, and how could this have been avoided? What lessons can you learn to move forward to a new relationship?

2. Allow yourself to grieve: A sense of loss and sadness after a relationship end is expected. Give yourself permission to grieve and acknowledge the emotions you're experiencing.

3. Take care of yourself: Focus on self-care activities that nurture your physical, emotional, and mental well-being. This can include exercising, eating well, getting enough sleep, practising mindfulness, and engaging in hobbies or activities you enjoy.

4. Plan your break: Decide how long you need a break and set a start and end date for your time off. Ensure you have the necessary resources to sustain you. Take a break from any work-related tasks or responsibilities. Unplug from technology and allow yourself to rest and rejuvenate fully. When you feel recharged, slowly reintegrate into your routine. Start with lighter tasks and gradually increase your workload as you feel capable.

5. Journal your feelings: Write down your thoughts and feelings in a journal. This can help you process your emotions and gain clarity about your experience. Something you can revisit when necessary.

6. Practice self-compassion: Be kind to yourself and practice self-compassion. Remember that healing takes time, and it's okay to experience ups and downs.

7. Set healthy boundaries: Establish clear boundaries with your ex-partner to help you protect your emotional well-being. Boundaries that work well for you if children are involved Limit or avoid contact, if necessary, especially in the early stages of healing.

8. Focus on personal growth: Use this time to focus on yourself and your personal growth. Set new goals, explore new interests or hobbies, and invest in activities that bring joy and fulfilment. Learn about yourself and what can be improved.

9. Challenge negative thoughts: Acknowledge and challenge any opposing intrusive thoughts or beliefs arising from the relationship breakdown. Replace them with positive and empowering thoughts. Avoid self-blaming.

10. Practice forgiveness: Forgiveness can be a crucial part of healing. This doesn't mean forgetting or condoning the behaviour that led to the breakdown, but rather, letting go of resentment and finding peace within yourself. Emotional healing has a profound impact on our emotional well-being. When we hold onto anger, resentment, or bitterness towards someone who has wronged us, it can consume our thoughts and emotions, leading to stress, anxiety, and even physical health issues.

11. Be patient: Healing after a relationship breakdown takes time, and there is no fixed timeline for recovery. Be patient with yourself and trust that you will eventually move forward and find happiness again.

12. Seek support: Contact trusted friends and family members who can offer a listening ear and support. Consider joining a support group or seeking professional therapy to help you process your emotions and gain valuable insights. Volunteer in your church or offer a helping hand to someone in need. Remember, it's essential to seek professional help if you find yourself struggling with intense emotions or if the healing process seems prolonged. Try not to minimise it as it does not exist.

In summary, emotional healing is a transformative act that allows us to release the burden of hurt and embrace a more positive and fulfilling life. Remember, healing takes time, so allow yourself the space and grace to recover fully before entering a new relationship.

Stay well and never struggle alone.

By Abigail Borquaye @ Healing Wings Support.